CONNECTION IS VERB

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Connection. It’s what we all look for in life. It’s what keeps us waking up each morning and facing each new day. As Brene Brown says “connection…the energy that exsists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued; when they give and receive without judgement, and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship”. I know I am not totally perfect at being this for others and I have been and will continue to aim for this again this year. However I also dont really feel this with some of the people in my life either with the exception of one or two. However I don’t believe many of us do it all that well, even if it is unintentional.

I think we have become so caught up in technology (says she who is sitting by the beach with a coffee and iPad), and overscheduling, and our workaholic lifestyle (me), that we become disconnected from those in our lives that matter. Life in general is fairly disconnected when you look at it. You can shop online. Study online. Send photos online. Talk online. Date online. Play games online. Socialise online. Which is great to an extent – but you forget that the reason many orphan babies die is from lack of human touch and personal interaction – an us adults are the same. We might not necessarily die on the outside but wait long enough and you will die on the inside.

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So I decided a while ago now that this year I was not going to write some long list of goals or achievements I wanted to reach. I did that last year, broke my spine and completely disappointed myself when I wasn’t able to physically do what I set out for, and it was tough…I cried, I sulked, and I got really angry. What it taught me was why does every New Years Resolution have to have a definitive or measurable outcome? No reason really except its what everyone seems to do this time of year. Instead of feeling bound and trapped by a set of clearly outlined goals, I am going with how I want to feel this year (if you are feeling trapped by the old paradigm of NYE resolutions go and check out Emazons take on it).

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So this year for me is going to be about connections. I want deeper connections in all aspects of my life. A deeper connection with God, myself, my family, a few close friends, my community, my work, and the environment. I want to feel connected in life instead of disconnection, discontent and disengaged. These past few days have really highlighted the importance of this too. We have had such sadness and shock in our house as one of my daughters friends died suddenly as did her mother. This was an acute reminder of how short life can be and how strong, deep connections are important in life. Don’t worry I’m working very hard to stay away from the whole foreboding joy trap when I look at my kids now but it’s a struggle. So the following song is really an awesome song that I feel applies to how I want people to feel and how I want to feel in the connections I build in life.

“Brother / Sister”
(feat. Dan Tyminski)

Hey brother, there’s an endless road to re-discover.
Hey sister, know the water’s sweet but blood is thicker.
Oh if the sky comes falling down, for you, there’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do.

Hey brother, do you still believe in one another?
Hey sister, do you still believe in love I wonder?
Oh if the sky comes falling down, for you, there’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do.

What if I’m far from home?
Oh brother I will hear you call.
What if I lose it all?
Oh sister I will help you out!
Oh if the sky comes falling down, for you, there’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do.

Hey brother, there’s an endless road to re-discover.
Hey sister, do you still believe in love I wonder?
Oh if the sky comes falling down, for you, there’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do.

What if I’m far from home?
Oh brother I will hear you call.
What if I lose it all?
Oh sister I will help you out!
Oh if the sky comes falling down, for you, there’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do.

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So this year I am going to connect. I will book in the few people I am going to nurture friendships with. I am going to handwritten letters again. I am going to have technology free time. I am going to fall in love with myself, and fall in love with my life again.

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