As 2014 looms closer so does the little gremlins in your head telling you that you should set some New Years Resolutions. How do I know this? Because I hear them every year at this time too, nagging me to make haste in ensuring that in 2014 I become healthier, wealthier and wiser. This isn’t such a bad thing, in fact it is good to have something to work towards, something to aspire to. However it’s important that you are not attaching the wrong emotions to it.

Each year when we take stock of our lives in anticipation for the turning of the calendar, many people tend to get caught up in the negative emotions of regret. ‘I didn’t lose all the weight I had hoped’ ‘I didn’t save enough money’ ‘I’m still not married’ ‘I’m still unhappy with my job’. Sound familiar? Don’t worry, this is familiar to many people. We forget sometimes to be thankful for what we have and the person we are…that person is important, and worthy, and loveable. Does that mean we shouldn’t aim for something different? No. But if you want to head into 2014 toward some new goals or even to revisit some old one, just be aware of your motives to ensure that they are true to your values and your core self. For some insight into this head over and check out Emazon – her vlogs, posts and courses can empower you to transform the way you look at yourself – it was certainly a catalyst for major changes in my thinking.

So what if changing your lifestyle is something you truly want to do for yourself? Then that’s great too. It’s important for us to nourish our whole selves physically, emotionally Nd spiritually for total life balance, however it’s easier said than done right? Yep, I get it because I have been there, and whilst I know I am going to be completing my Cert III & IV in Fitness in the new year, I am not quite ready to offer that service on the coast yet. Never fear though, there are some fabulous Personal Trainers that can help you with your new year goals whatever they may be at whatever place you may be in your life and I’m going to give you a heads up on some that I know of. These are for the Sunshine Coast in Queensland Australia but if you google or search facebook you can generally find some in your area – sometimes we need that helping hand to get you started…I know I did.
(N.B. No financial affiliation to any services mentioned here and you access them at your own discretion)


Melinda and her staff can meet your personal training and fitness needs with both one on one and group training, challenges, and something a little different – they offer adventures in a kayak, up a mountain and working out your mind fitness ‘stuff’. Varied times and days to fit your schedule.


Marcus does one on one and group training options to suit your needs. His boxing sessions are especially popular and as easy or hard as you make them.


Sammy and her staff can help you with all your needs through pre and post natal exercise, group sessions, challenges or one on one sessions. Multiple times to fit into your busy schedule.


Susan and her team can help you find fitness with group and personal training, but can also show you through surfing and SUPing. Varied options for your needs.

So go on – if you want to make a change and know that a gym membership isn’t quite what you want then check out these personal trainers or more nearest you. Often times they will have a free trial so really there is nothing to lose, just health to gain. And if you know some good ones in other areas give them a shout out below in the comments.



Here we are again – the REAR END (sorry, couldn’t resist the title ha!) of another year and the cornerstone of a new one just hiding around the corner ready to pounce on us like a tiger on its prey. Okay I know that sounds terribly foreboding but this time of year seems to just come from nowhere, even though we are aware of it creeping ever so slowly until it is gleaming its teeth in front of our face waiting for our next move. So it seems fit as it does each year to take stock of what has been so reflective growth can occur and the slate that was the year passed can be washed clean ready for what lies ahead. I do feel that by doing this you are more able to look forward with anticipation, passion and excitement, rather than tentative uncertainty. So what has 2013 held for me?

I had many of these days...

I had many of these days…

The year that was has been a year of significant and rapid growth for both me and my little unit. I have learnt so much about myself this year that it was almost to confronting to deal with. What did I learn???

* STRENGTH – I learnt that I have incredible inner strength. Some would say that it’s stubborn resolve after I refused to call an ambulance to get rescued of the outer rocks at Point Cartwright when I fractured my spine early in the year, instead choosing to drag my butt away from the incoming tide all by myself. However I do believe that the way I dealt with the situation and the loss of ability to do some of the things I wanted to do not only highlighted this strength but grew it some too.

Strength from within is also from something far greater than us...

Strength from within is also from something far greater than us…

* SELF RESPECT – I learnt that in fact i am more than enough, I’m abso-freakin-lutely awesome! Despite years of self sabotage, poor body image and never feeling quite good enough in general, I have come to a realisation that those beliefs are a result of years and years of conditioning by all the things I ALLOWED to influence me throughout my life. It was only when the message clicked deep within that I’m the creator of my world both internal and external, that I began to truly respect the person that is me. In fact one lightbulb moment occurred durning my adventure trip to overcome my fear of deep water (a work in process let me say), where a photo needed to be taken in a hurry and the beautiful Mel from MAB PT & ADVENTURES saw my hesitation and promptly flicked on the switch saying something like….you look great, embrace what you have….and BAM! The inside of my brain has been like a Beacon Lighting store at night! Again that adventure deserves a post of its own.

* WORTHINESS & VULNERABILITY – I have learnt the true meaning of worthiness and its significance I leading an extraordinary life. It’s certainly a work in progress that’s for certain, but I’m getting better at it and holding onto it as I live more and more wholeheartedly. I now have a deeper grasp on the truth that the way other people behave, react, respond or interact really has almost nothing to do with me (exception of course if I’m being an ass hat), and everything to do with where they are on their journey. This has been a tough lesson to accept for someone who was so great at beating herself up she could have defeated Ali! But this lesson in worthiness has not come without truly understanding vulnerability and embracing it. At this point I old like to thank Brene Brown and her book Daring Greatly for the slap in the face this lesson/experience has been! I say this sarcastically with tongue in cheek of course, because despite how many tears I’ve shed and how painful the realisations have been, I know that I am stepping into a deeper way of living because of it. I’m learning to dare greatly in all that I do, stepping out courageously from the shadows and fears I have been living in for all these years.


I know there have been so many more lessons, but I think you get the general flow of the growth we have achieved this year. In fact I really don’t feel the need anymore to go into too much detail because I’m far too excited to sit and plan what my year is going to be like in 2014.

I am grateful for the following however…new people I’ve met, the lessons I have learned, the good and the not so good, the opportunities, the opened doors, the closed doors, the leaping off cliffs, the sad moments, the happy moment, fears overcome, demons faced, the truths revealed, and the ability to create my reality. Most of all I am grateful that individually and as a family, we are moving forward, not stuck in our old realities for comforts sake.

Grateful for my family...

Grateful for my family…

So back to you…what has come out of 2013 for you????? Feel free to link to your years wrap up…

And stay tuned as I reveal the road ahead…




I hope you all had a very wonderful and safe Christmas with your loved ones, and I would like to say a thank you for continuing on this journey in life with me. I hope that we will continue to learn and grow together in 2014.

Christmas. It’s the one time of year that hold the most potential for both good and bad. It’s the one time of year that holds all of our hopes, dreams, wishes, and everything else in every bauble and every Merry Christmas. Its the one time of year that holds potential for sadness, grief and depression too. It is also these things that had me pondering how we all ‘do’ Christmas and why. I think much of the answer lies within a single word. Expectation.


We each old expectations in life, about everything. We each have preconceived ideas about almost everything and it is this that shapes the way we see and experience the world, and life. Is there anything bad about that? Not necessarily but it does have the potential to create content or discontent, and can keep us stuck in the merry go round that is our past, our history, our old selves. That’s not to say that tradition is bad, but I do believe that like Chinese whispers, traditions can morph into an unhealthy habit. This year I had an AWAKENING! So this year we decided to shirk our old expectations in favour of new, fresh and healthy ways of being.

As a family we have never really conformed to the whole santa thing, in fact my children have never believed in santa. Yes we have been hauled over the coals by friends, family, and complete strangers for it, but I’ve never been comfortable preaching to my kids about telling the truth, stranger danger and the like then telling them he is real and forcing them to sit on a strange mans knee so he can bribe them to be good with the promise of treats. But hey that’s just me. As someone who experienced the outcome of poor self protection education as a little girl, stranger danger and people danger are forefront in my mind – but that’s another post. Where I was going with this is when I went shopping throughout this past month it seemed as though each parent I passed looked stressed, worn out, and many had frazzled looks on their faces after glancing down at the price tag of that item their child just ‘had to have’ for Christmas. People were frantically loading up with bags of stuff, toys overflowing and generally just rushing as though Christmas Day was the last ever day to show your loved ones the true measure of love. No I’m not the Grinch, or even a Scrooge, I tried desperately to seek out the faces of joy amongst the crowds but alas there just wasn’t that many that seemed genuinely joyous. So this just renewed my decision to seek out a simple Christmas with my family.


We have always been quite practical gift givers in my family but this year we took it to a whole new level and my girls were gracious and grateful all the same. They got the new clothes they needed, a bit of reading material, and one or two things that made them smile. That’s it. No big electronics or game stations, no stacks of makeup or trinkets….and it was refreshing. For all of us. As for Christmas Day festivities, well that was scaled back too. We had a simple breakfast just the four of us and discussed what we were grateful for over the past year. Our lunch consisted of some amazing and simple raw salads, with a minimal amount of meat – because we wanted to reduce our dependence on animal products and nourish our bodies. Then in the afternoon we gathered at the beach with nibblies, for a swim and a chillax with some amazing people. And again it was refreshing.


It was a refreshing day because I took away the conventional expectations as to what Christmas Day should look like and just enjoyed whatever came our way. We had things go wrong, people didn’t turn up and just rolled with it, without the need to control it – we just readjusted our sails. S my Christmas AWAKENING was that it doesn’t matter what tradition or society say our special occasions should look like…we should just dance to our own song and create what we want it to look like whatever it may be…which gets me thinking about something else we have been planning – but you will just have to wait in suspense for that!

So in looking at what lies before you with the turn of the year please remember….DIFFERENT ISN’T WRONG IT’S JUST DIFFERENT….go dance!



Where do I start?

I have spent significant effort trying to get even this first sentence out because instead of a state of mindfulness, I feel like my head is more a minefield of sorts. I’m certain that at any time the grenades that are the issues in my head are going to explode and set off a series of events that has the potential to unravel the fabric of ‘what I call’ my sanity. It is the closest I have been for a long time to losing the plot – which should ordinarily be difficult since it is my story after all.

I should really let you all in on what is going on since I have chosen to share some of the grenades with you all. I chose to share this of course, for a very good reason. You see balance is dynamic – meaning that at any one time the balancing scales can be tipped in any direction. This doesn’t mean that your life is out of balance it just means that you have to develop a way of adjusting to this new definition or point of balance. This is also to say that I am also not immune to needing to constantly be in a state of awareness of these shifting dynamics in my own life. I want to make sure that I am ever-transparent to those who are dedicated to my blog, and show that I am just like everyone else and struggle with balance too. It is much easier to see how other people can create balance in their lives – but much harder to have the same level of diplomacy of your own. I stand before you today and say ‘I’m struggling with it’ and ‘open to suggestions’.

In my job I wear many hats. I don’t mind doing that because not only does it keep life interesting, but I really like hats! The problem with wearing so many hats however, is that you have to be constantly aware of the hat you are wearing so as you don’t mix up what role you are playing – unless you have one of those cute mirrors like Vanity Smurf carry around. So with all this musical role-changing I am feeling quite a sense of overwhelm to the point of tears. I know I need to look at my roles and how to best manage my time. This also includes a bit of learning how to leave my job at work and not carry the weight of what I do home with me. Being in the caring profession of nursing it is sometimes difficult to separate your emotions and ‘clock off’ at the end of the day. But I know now that I really need to master this. Sure there will be special occasions that rock your soul in this job but I just cannot let this be everyday like I have been up til now. How I do this is an answer I don’t have at this time. I’m the worst person at switching off and ‘leaving it at work’ – my mind and heart keep going throughout the day/evening in all that I do. Whether it be an item I see or a song I hear that reminds me of a client past or present….it is ever constant within my very being. Some would say that it is this that sets me apart as a nurse and whilst I agree to some point, I also have to recognise that I cannot maintain this state of heightened emotion and thought without it being a detriment to myself and my family in the long term.

I also have taken on quite a lot in my professional life outside of my current ‘day job’. Aside from writing (which is quite therapeutic for me really and the one thing that gives me an outlet that is all my own), I also have a few other things going on. Along with helping a few people out with their social media, marketing and writing on a barter service, I also have my Cert III & IV in Fitness that I am meant to be working towards – not to mention, my own website to build and work on. When looking at all this it is my own business building strategy and outcomes that is suffering as a result of such an enormous workload.

One would hope that at least my personal life would be somewhat balanced but alas no, it is currently in a tad of turmoil and dishevelled disarray. My husband and I both work shift work and are currently working on a tag team basis not by choice but rather necessity. This means that instead of time together we have more of ‘what I would call’ a hallway relationship. I miss hi I terribly and it breaks me to pieces that our family life at the moment is far from what we want. That coupled with the massive upheaval that has occurred the past few days has meant that our entire schedule and balance is even more uncontrolled. I’m more out of control than I have been for a while and I’m afraid that its going to be a tough slog to get at least some of it back. This part I really don’t know what to do. My mother has left an emotionally bankrupt relationship and is staying with us which is tough in such a small villa. I love having her here and my girls are especially blessed to have her here too, it I’m so emotionally drained and wasn’t ready for this and am feeling ill equipped and uncertain of what my next step should be.

So I have no fairy tale ending. No feel good round up of today’s post. No word of wisdom or encouragement. No silver lining to brighten the night sky. Only empty hands upturned to the sky asking…..’what’s next, where to from here’………………

The Inherent Dangers of Elf on the Shelf


What a timely post for Christmas…thank goodness I’ve never picked this book up for my kids. In fact my children don’t believe in Santa at all. My youngest was so traumatised by the thought of a strange man coming into your house whilst sleeping at night and really I don’t blame her when we are trying to teach them stranger danger. This is a great article worth a cuppa and a read.

Everything is Better Wrapped in Bacon

If you’re like me, then the holidays are a time of elaborate decoration, gift-giving and the hidden look of disappointment in your parents’ eyes as they come to terms with another season that you’ve stood by your decision not to have children. Luckily for my parents, my younger sister has two little boys that love Christmas! My parents adore them and my sister and her husband are heavily involved in their lives and forming nostalgic memories for them to look back fondly on.  One of the “traditions” that my sister introduced is the Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition.

For those of you who aren’t in the know as I was not, Elf on the Shelf is a posable elf doll and accompanying book that outlines what this little elf means for the children of the house. The book goes on to tell the children to whom it is…

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Creativity and the Aging Brain


Wow! What an awesome read. As an aged care nurse I found this very interesting to read and it sparked so many thoughts about creativity and ageing, and the importance of tapping into it.

To my readers jump on over and have a read.

The Artist's Road

“Don’t imagine you’ll have it forever. Use it while you’ve got it because it’ll go; it’s sliding away like water down a plug hole.”

So said Nobel Prize-winning novelist Doris Lessing of creativity. The author of The Golden Notebook, who passed away recently at the age of 94, said this five years ago when describing a creative slump. But as Tara Bahrampour notes in The Washington Post, in many ways creative thinking can stay with you well into your final years, and perhaps even be stronger and more dynamic.

I put forward as Exhibit One the estimable Dr. Francine Toder, author of The Vintage Years: Finding Your Inner Artist (Writer, Musician, Visual Artist) after Sixty. In her guest post for The Artist’s Road in May, she profiles creatives who started a new creative passion later in life. Francine herself took up the cello at age 70.

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The world mourns the death of an inspired man today. Nelson Mandela has inspired man and called many to action as they move through their lives. Here is a post I wrote about this man last year and how his words have impacted on me.

Maybe we can do a daily post with this.

Tell us how Nelson Mandelas life and words have inspired or impacted you? What words struck you the most? Link this post so we can follow what you write about this.

Tailored Living Project

Just a revisit….

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening or good night – fellow AWESOMERS! Just thought I would put that in since I have followers now from all over this beautiful world – especially in the US…shout out hello to all of you.

So it is afternoon here and I am on my day 2 of 4 of afternoon shifts this afternoon (nurse speak) and decided I would try to fit in a bit of study before I head to work (because lets face it – full time shift work, family, kids, training and my extra role just doesnt fill my time enough so lets take up some study pffttt – yeah I know stoopid idea but hey – someones gotta trial stoopid stuff might as well be me. Im actually going for the guiness book of records for the person who can fit the most into a life…

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ACROSS THE OCEANS – What lurks beneath



My name is Sunny.

I live on Queenslands Sunshine Coast in Australia.

I grew up in Woolgoolga right next to the beach before moving to Queensland.

The beach is THE only place that truly centres me. Calms me. Inspires me. Captures me.
So being a beach person who loves water sports should be a cinch right? WRONG WRONG WRONG!

I burn like a beetroot so if I had any sense I would stay in the shade! I truly do love the beach, especially Mooloolaba where I feel like I’m on holiday all of the time. I love that on a quiet night I can hear the rush of the ocean and waves from my back yard. I love the sand – even if it invades every space of our car and home because I is a constant reminder of the blessing that is my life. I like the taste of salt spray and the feel of those minuscule salt crystals on your reddened, sensitive skin after a whole day at the beach. I love that totally spent feeling after diving under and jumping over waves on a summer day. I don’t like sunscreen (another post), but I do love the smell of it mixed with summer barbeques wafting through the air.


I do not like the fish near feet
I do not like a jellyfish street
I do not like a great big shark
I do not like it, it’s not a lark
I do not like the coral reef
No I do not like what lies beneath

I will not smile for the cam
I do not like it Tam I am!



I’m terrified of what lurks beneath. For no other reason I guess than when I was in primary school a friend piggy backed me across a deep section of water and just let me go. The shock set in and a fear I have never experienced before took hold and I almost drowned. It was as if my body forgot how to swim. I have been fearful of deep water both in pools and open water ever since.

And if I want my girls to challenge themselves and their biggest fears, then I have to show them what I do with fear and challenges. If I didn’t I would be acting hypocritically. So I’m taking on one of my biggest fears…deep water. My logical fear-ridden brain is telling me as I type this ‘gee you’re a goose! Why did you start in a really deep pool?’. Good point…yeah good point. Too late!

Next week I have booked in with Melinda of MAB (Mind And Body) Personal Training & Adventures to from Golden Beach to Bribie Island. This is going to be an enormous challenge for me and I can’t promise there won’t be tears, freak outs and meltdowns, but I can promise that I will give it a good crack, and give you a play by play on how truly………….frightening and liberating facing this fear will be.

What is your biggest fear?