Both intriging and deep thoughts. I believe that all of us are at some level conditioned by “stuff”. Shared with my readers to check out…about time we start questioning what we “know” and how we “respond” in these instances because certainly something isn’t working.

READ MY FINGERS

We each have our own ‘language of life’ that we struggle to have others understand. We are all so different, not only in physical appearance but what lies beneath our skin. And yet in many other ways we are alike and through these similarities we are connected. But it is the differences between us that I find most intriguing. Not the small stuff like why I love books and you love, well whatever it is you love. I mean the odd, sometimes quirky and maybe sometimes the disgusting or even evil and criminal things that humans do.

We all start off our lives as innocents, then depending on many different circumstances we are shaped by events and the people in our lives. The whole nature versus nurture debate springs to mind, are we essentially the product of our environment or can we blame the way we are on our upbringing?…

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Excellent blog post Belinda. A must share with my readers.

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Every now and then I receive a press release that really speaks to me. I thought I’d share this one. After all, sharing is caring, right?

Neuroscientist Dr.Jack Lewis teams up with music streaming site rara.com to develop workout playlists. Now you can keep your new year resolution in tact with the help of a little music.

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2012 WP REVIEW

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 5,000 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 8 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

WHC…because this is aiki right…totally over LOL. Bet this will go viral lol….I mean WHC 😉

The Chatter Blog

I do believe in creating new words.  I do it all of the time.

I don’t mind using short cuts for when I’m texting.

But I’m tired of “LOL”.

Feel free to use:   WHC

I hear by copyright this:   WHC=Whole Hearted Chuckle.

You’re welcome.

All royalties will go to some kind of charity or other.

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And because this is funny:

Top Ten Reasons She Should Be A Hermit

(Ironically I paraphrased the above title).

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FRIENDS – DIAMONDS OR STICK ONS?

INFINITE FRIENDSHIPS

Friends. A relative term really because there are so many kinds. Real friends. Fake friends. True friends. False friends. Convenient friends. Loyal friends. Best friends. Second choice friends. The list just goes on. So I have been pondering this post for a while. Soon I will finish this post – visiting the subject of am infinite balance in friendships. Stay tuned!

You are 5 years old. Young, trusting, and entirely green in the friendship province. This is the age when one of your best friends is the girl who shared her toys on the first day of prep, one is the daughter of your mothers’ friend, and the other is the imaginary superwoman of your daydreams. Goodness it seemed so simple back then – say hi, you are my best friend, share some sandwiches, tell lame knock knock jokes that make absolutely no sense, and laugh hysterically until someone shushes  you  all (yes Penelope might be invisible but she is a pseudo-person too WHC). As an adult however it has become so much more complicated – but does it have to be? And how many times do we actually stay friends for a lifetime? Well let’s just visit a while the issue of INFINITE FRIENDSHIPS, and their delicate balance.

Most of you have already read my post on “SNOW WHITE & THE 7 FRIENDS” which you can read it here: https://balancedawesomeness.wordpress.com/2012/09/04/snow-white-and-the-seven-friends/and really it must have touched on a nerve because it has been one of my most shared and viewed post so far. But I don’t think it is enough to just identify the good and the not-so-good  friends in your life. It is also important to identify why they are good or not-so-good, and ways to nourish and nurture these friendships. And the reason for that is to ensure that your relationships with others follow a contribute not contaminate, value-adding not valueless road. Life is too short for anything else. But that doesn’t mean you cannot interact with those who are the latter – it just means that those people are maybe not in your “circle of trust”. The FISH! Philosophy components provide just the formula to decipher all this.

BE THERE!

Your typical “not-so-good” friend doesn’t understand the importance of this concept and really reads this as “be there – when its convenient, or you have nothing better to do, or it is pertinent to personal gain, or is pertinent to public appearance/opinion”.  However, your authentic friend will “be there” because it cultivates this friendship, and develops trust, and grows connections, and well and just because they are your friend.

Examples of being there include but are not limited to – coffee dates, keeping each other on track in health, answering your phone when they call (unless of course you are on the loo – step away from the phone), returning calls/text messages in a timely fashion, active listening (this includes not just saying mm hmm, yes, ah hah because you are watching something on tv – if the show is that important then request a better time to chat and go watch the freakin show), providing advice when needed but understanding that venting amongst friends sometimes requires us to just reply with “oh that sucks!”. Be present, be attentive, BE THERE.

CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE!

Your typical “not-so-good” friend has no ability to choose their attitude. When they are down they go to great lengths not to just vent their upset or utilise a shoulder/listening ear…they suck the life out of the person they are with and anyone within a 1km radius. Their idea of choosing their attitude is more like “choose how you are going to make everybody else feel today”. However, your authentic friend will be able to be emotionally intelligent and realise that just because they are in a crappy mood, they are able to vent/share/whatever then move the hell on like the adult they are meant to be. But this authentic friend is also able to decipher between toxic and value adding attitudes too – and wont give you whiplash with inconsistency.

Examples of this  include but are not limited to – putting an enthusiastic attitude into events that require such, consistent with their attitudes toward others despite who they are or what they are or aren’t doing on any given day. I also believe that this also includes consistency in your STAND, or your values. This actually helps cultivate these friendships as people are not trying to guess what is going to piss you off or make you upset on any given day. Choose joy, choose love, CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE!

MAKE THEIR DAY!

Your typical “not-so-good” friend will always make sure that special events, moments etc is all about them. These people are unable to do selfless acts, or think of ways to create special moments in the everyday lives of others. Your authentic friend however knows just the way to “make your day” in any way they can. They can make your day just being there!

Examples of this include but are not limited to – making someone a priority not a second choice, putting yourself out once in a while to step up to a need, get to know what people are really like – not just what we see on the outside (no stalking allowed…its illegal WHC), turn up when you say you are going to turn up – laziness is really not a good enough excuse, and well you get the general direction.

HAVE FUN!

Your typical “not-so-good” friend doesn’t really understand the concept of fun – or is so blind to this concept that they remain in their ever so safe little worlds. They will spend every second visiting you on an iPad (even when you have taken annual leave to be with them), they find every possible reason to just sit and do nothing (and seriously why not just do that at home), and again the list goes on. But an authentic friend will want to cultivate a friendship of fun – one that is memorable and amazing, but sometimes that involves having fun.

Examples of this include, but are not limited to – a family activity for everyone – kids and adults, trying something new, something outdoorsy (ok yes I am a bit biased to this), cook together, learn new skills together…anything really that is positive.

Now along with cultivating this in your friendships you also must be prepared to be this for your part also. We know none of us are perfect and as one of my friends said in her blog, to cultivate good friendships you must be a good friend. So this year I will endeavour to work at cultivating good friendships, and identifying which ones deserve that careful cultivation. And in turn I ask that – well nothing really – I ask for nothing in return because your actions will speak louder than your facebook status.

Now over to my followers and fellow bloggers…how do you cultivate your friendships? How do you deal with those toxic friendships? What ways do you have fun, be there, make their day, or choose your attitude? Speak up – its by sharing knowledge that we learn and grow!

Everybody Be AWESOME In Friendships!!!

TAM 🙂

THOU WAS BADA$$

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Fireworks (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

I know. Not a great end to 2012 being so late to review the year that was. Especially since we are well into the first week of 2013. But I have a soopa-oopa-doopa good reason – or is that an excuse? Nope reason it is. I HAVE BEEN LIVING. And unfortunately that includes the inconveniences in life too – I have slipped into what I would consider uuugghhhh…but what my loved ones call “Gods/the universe” way of making me slow down. I fell and hurt my shoulder before Christmas and that coupled with family, fun, life…I have been somewhat consumed by other things that have needed my attention. But I did miss you all so I hope you have all arrived safely at the other side of the new year revelling.

I know a lot of people believe that you should leave the past in the past. Good in some respects. However, I believe that in order to look forward, plan forward and move forward, you need to know where you have come from so that you don’t repeat the bad stuff, but learn from it in order to embrace the good stuff. I also believe that it is important to acknowledge your journey already travelled because it has not only shaped your current self, but is also part of your story and is a testament to what you are capable of. So here it is…my reflection on the year that was – 2012!

So a lot happened in 2012 which included some really crappy stuff – including family dramas, injuries, relationship strain, job challenges, blah blah blah.

But a lot of really cool stuff happened too!!!

  • All clear from cervical cancer – woo hoo!!! No more nasty visits to the specialist. In fact my doctor printed out my all clear results and told me that I can finally frame them ha ha ha.
  • Resolution of thyroid issues – another woo hoo!!! This makes mood, energy, weight loss etc a lot easier believe me.
  • Started my non-smoking life (well it really started in December 2011 but hey lets not get fussy). Wow…how the hell did I get anything done with so much time spent smoking my life away?
  • I got serious about getting healthy & fit
    • Did my first official-ish run – Mooloolaba 5km Twilight Run…and came in a spectacular LAST lol. And that was with a broken rib and torn adductor – totes hardcore ha ha ha.
    • Ran my first 10km event in the very first ever Sunshine Coast Marathon. I didn’t beat my speedy husband like I had hoped, but I sure did finish – and I ran (slowly but did run) 9.5km of it. And I didn’t come last!

      10km run - check!

      10km run – check!

    • Completed my first triathlon. A mini one but the long course of a mini one. The fact that it was a PINK tri to raise funds just made it that much sweeter. I didn’t come last in this either lol.

      MY AWESOMENESS TEAMIES - HELL YEAH!!!

      MY AWESOMENESS TEAMIES – HELL YEAH!!!

    • Climbed numerous mountains. Mt Tinbeerwah, Wildhorse Mountain, Mt Coolum, Mt Ngungun – and attempted part of Mt Tibrogargan.
    Mt Ngungun with some awesomeness chickas!

    Mt Ngungun with some awesomeness chickas!

    • Became stronger, more courageous and more self respecting. I made my STAND against bullies, toxic people, disrespecting family members, and made my STAND against my old beliefs about myself. I began to love who I am and started to recognise that yes I am worthy of respect and have the power to shape my own world.
    • I became Mrs Awesomeness – dubbed this by Miss Fabulissa I began to shape my world with this in mind. All decisions were made with AWESOMENESS in mind.
    • I became clear in thought and found a passion again – and that includes my exciting endeavours for the coming year (but more on that in my next post).
    • I began blogging!!! And it is here I say thankyou to all my followers, sharers, fellow bloggers and likers. Thankyou for your input so far and I hope this continues in 2013 because I am now addicted ha ha!

 

So kind of exciting. A big year it was. Yes there were a lot of tears. A lot of laughs. Plenty of smiles. And a touch of sadness. But it wouldn’t be life without all that in it. Our experiences are kind of like the coloured crayons on a blank piece of paper. And the people I have met are the pictures that have helped shape my year. There are people I have met throughout the year that I no longer really interact with for various reasons, and there are those that I have become closer to – to all of you I am glad I met you and I thankyou for what you brought to my life. Everyone comes into our life for a reason – whether we figure it out or not. You are all a blessing and I pray that you have an extraordinary 2013!

So in reflecting I can only assume that 2013 is not only going to be my year of AWESOME, but it is going to be an exceptional year with so many exciting challenges ahead. I know I am capable of whatever is asked of me and more than courageous enough for anything that comes my way – in fact I KNOW that I will sparkle this year. Keep in touch for my goal post soon.

Oh Yeah!!! (photo credit: google images)

Oh Yeah!!! (photo credit: google images)

WHAT CAME OF YOUR 2012? SHARE & FEEL FREE TO POST A LINK TO YOUR 2012 ROUND UP HERE 🙂

Everybody Be AWESOME!!!

TAM 🙂

 

Totally love these month challenged SV…now for all my readers who is up for this….

Sailor Vee

And, now that I’ve got that in your head alllllll day – here’s why.

One of my favourite things about training with Corey from Motivate Fitness is the brutal but awesome butt (glutes) component of our leg day workout. I seriously got some butt muscle!

While I’m on a training break from Corey, I’m finding the old derriere just isn’t getting the workout it needs.

And it’s not ALL vanity. The glutes are the biggest and strongest muscle in your whole body. Good strong glutes will make you faster, better able to accelerate/decelerate/rotate and extend your hip. They improve your posture and will make sitting down, standing up, walking up hills and up stairs easier and decrease your risk of injury.

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And you’ll look smoking hot back on. Bonus.

But how are we doing this? I’m going to get back into making sure I challenge myself on leg days with…

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